The Path to Sobriety in College

The Path to Sobriety in College

The Importance of Early Awareness, Support and Education One of my best friends, “Mike”, has a son who is in college. I’ve changed their names in order to protect their privacy, but for the sake of this blog, I’ll call his son, “James”. Actually, James used to be in college, but is not currently enrolled anywhere. James was a good student in a rural high school. He’d been psyched to have the “college experience” in the big city of Richmond at Virginia Commonwealth University. VCU is considered one of the top party schools in Virginia, and it has plenty of press to prove those bragging rights. James started out strong with 5 As and 1 B during his first semester. Then he wanted more social opportunities, so he pledged and got involved with a fraternity. He spearheaded their big charity event and eventually became President of his fraternity. They even won National Chapter of the Year. James was taking on a full load doing extra service projects, leadership seminars, volunteering, and leading his fraternity. He felt the pressure to do it all. He started mis-using Adderall, which took over his life. This led to him taking more and sleeping less and less. He was drinking on top of using the Adderall, and had two alcohol related offenses. James had fallen in with the party crowd. He drove while intoxicated and got busted. Luckily he did not hurt anyone else or himself. James’ dad was supportive through it all. They had many conversations about judgment, choices and risky behavior versus his future. After the second offense, James had to choose...
Sexual Assault on College Campuses: The Men Making a Difference

Sexual Assault on College Campuses: The Men Making a Difference

2 Men Who Are Doing Great Work on Campuses I had the privilege of speaking again at St. Joseph’s College in Long Island in November. I really love this school and their commitment. The staff is committed to dealing with sexual assault prevention and response head on. They realize that this is not just a box they can check on a checklist and declare it “handled.” They have a lot of great speakers throughout their semester. And they have Father Frank. This is the coolest priest I have ever met. He teaches at the Long Island campus; he speaks, and he helps run a halfway house and a church. I don’t think he sleeps much. He is one committed guy. The contact I had the honor of working with, Bryan Gill, who is the director of Student Activities and among many other responsibilities. Bryan told me Father Frank does an amazing talk about his life experience and about making choices and choosing to count your blessings. Several other students told me that Father Frank’s talk was not to be missed, so I hope that I will get to see him “do his thing” soon. I have been in the personal growth and development world for over 20 years. There are many good-hearted, hardworking, committed people in helping professions. I have worked with more women than men. I am a big believer that if a person helped you, even if it was just for a day or a week, then be grateful. I am grateful that I am open to men and women. The more I study gender, media, addictions,...

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